Lately, I have seen so many posts about the people we meet in jiu-jitsu. I myself have discussed this subject, and I think it has been written on to the point where I can safely say “We get it.”
However, I have not seen much written on the people who quit. These people can be grouped into categories, and while sad, some of them have some pretty hilarious reasons for permanently leaving the art.
In my opinion and experience, these are the top five people who quit jiu-jitsu.
(Also note all of these categories have a chance to stay. I am just saying they often end up quitting.)
The Back Yard Fighter
This guy comes in so sure of himself. He boasts a crazy underground fighting record, but has never actually trained. He even doubts that the instructor will be able to teach him something.
Then he gets choked by the two-month white belt. He makes a bunch of excuses such as “in a real fight, I would . . .” and then he is never seen again.
The Experienced Wrestler
Many wrestlers do stick with BJJ, and that is awesome. However, many end up quitting. Sometimes they are high school or even college wrestlers who want to learn, but they think they know what’s what. Often, they are able to dominate the lower white belts, but then the seasoned grapplers come and show them the brilliance of BJJ.
Again many of these guys stay in BJJ, and that’s great, but this specific class often end up quitting.
The Family Man
This is one of the sad-but-true scenarios in BJJ. This guy is happy in class and actually loves it, but his work and family schedule end up pulling him out of the art. Most of the time, it comes down to time management, and he just can’t make it to class.
Not to be confused with the family man, this guy has no experience, but comes in and goes ballistic on everyone. Not knowing what to do, he spazzes for his life and ends up either quitting the first day or getting injured.
This is another sad, but common scenario. This is guy is incredibly timid and afraid to roll. He is even afraid to learn. He stumbles in, but is intimidated by the training and ends up quitting.
This is the easiest one to prevent because we can welcome him warmly and roll gently with him.
However, people like this still quit.
So after making this list, I have realized that there are many more types that end up quitting. Perhaps there may be a part two?
What are your experiences with people who quit ?