Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is perhaps one of the most frustrating things to talk about with the uninitiated. Seriously. There are so many awful things about having any conversation with anyone who doesn’t do Jiu Jitsu and yet it’s almost unavoidable if you are remotely serious about your training.
For starters, we very often have physical marks on our bodies (neck, hands, face…) When people see the various abrasions and contusions that we accumulate as we train they sometimes feel the need to ask about them, and we are more often than not happy to explain, until they react to our conversation, and then we may get an inexplicable urge to leave a bow and arrow choke hickey on them…
People have a really hard time comprehending the motivation we have to train. So very often the words “I can’t, I’ve got to train” come out of my mouth. So very often the words “I’ve got a competition that weekend” come out of my mouth. And the responses to that are generally a combination of confusion and amusement. There is nothing funny about this. I need to train. Shut up, stop trying to get me not to.
These are all very mild annoyances to trying to explain BJJ to people. We’ve all heard the various things that stupid people say. Either asking if BJJ is like karate, making fun of the fact that we call it BJJ or referring to it as rolling with sweaty men instead of recognizing the beauty of the art.
I’ve seriously considered lying to people and telling them I play another sport. Insisting that I am on a football team or something. Or that I do crossfit. People dig crossfit right? People suck. Explaining Jiu Jitsu to people sucks. The worst part is that it’s unavoidable. I’ve basically given up on trying to get around it.
As far as getting people to try jiu jitsu, for the most part you’re better off getting them to donate you a kidney. I’m not saying there aren’t people who you can get to try out a class, in fact there are a few people I’ve gotten to try out a class, but those are few and far between. Family members? Nope. Friends? Mehhhh, People are either interested in trying it out or are not, and there will come a day when most of your friends are people you have choked or have choked you.
There will be very supportive people, and depending on what kinds of relationships you have with your friends/colleagues you may be way more fortunate than I am. For example, if you have friends or family that are fellow martial artists you may have a built in support network. Really it all depends on the kinds or relationships you have. I’ve got a few teammates who really have an impressive turnout of their friends when they compete, and that’s lovely. I’m just not one of those people. Most people in my life would rather watch paint dry than come watch me bake cookies on the mat in a high school gym.
What are your experiences with talking about your jiu jitsu endeavors with others? Are you like me and dread the moment that someone wants to ask you questions? Or do you welcome it?